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But then a couple of months go by up to a year and one of two things happen. You run into the girl out on the town with your boys while you’re looking sweeter than Kool-aid with extra sugar. You guys are working the room and the ladies are loving it she peeps this and decides to say hey what’s up trying to get in line. The other more likely scenario is that you get a random text from the girl saying something along the lines of, “Hey VK, it’s been a while, how are you, hope all is well”. At this point you have a comeback girl on your hands.
Now the first thing to do is realize the reason for the comeback girls text message. The easiest thing to do is to check out the calendar. If it’s Spring then she might have been dating someone else and just got out of the relationship and is looking for a good time. If it’s in the fall though, it’s obviously “Bun Season” and her options and she’s trying to hedge her bets and settle down before it gets cold outside. But the worst part of these text’s is the end, “Hope all is well”.
WTF? What if all wasn’t well? One time I’d like to text back, “Actually, my mom has brain cancer, my best friend died in a car accident, I’ve just be laid off from my job, my dog is taking Prozac to deal with his AIDS and I have erectile dysfunction. But other than that everything is great” It would be great if a girl just stopped fronting and said something like, “Hey VK, sorry I was such a flake, can I have some dick?”
But if the relationship kind of faded away on relative good terms with no hard feelings then feel free to get back in the game. Sure the first time you might have gotten the brush off from a Comeback girl but the second time you’ should notice a major difference. E mails and texts being sent back promptly, all of a sudden her schedule is free for dates anytime you want, no flaking allowed, the date conversation flows better and she seems way more receptive to the game you spit. Hell the more than I think about I’d take a comeback girl than a cold start. Just don’t act like you’re too eager and happy she came back, but as long as she acts right, it’s all good.
worth the 2nd effort? hmmmmm. hopefully its a wrap
guys are def guilty of this too…
With “comeback girls” you have to hit it QUICKLY. Why?
#1 - They flaked once. Better to get it before they have a chance to flake again.
#2 - They chose a BBD (bigger, better deal) over you. In other words, you’re 2nd best (or worse) in her book.
If she doesn’t come across IMMEDIATELY, do to her what she did to you. The worst that will happen is she’ll disappear from your life again. No loss, since you probably weren’t going to tear off a piece anyway. The best will be that her IOI will be off the chart (CAUTION: Stalker alert if you play it too hard).
Leena- you are right but as a matter of style I try not to bang guys so I really don’t care. But again good point
there’s nothing better than kool-aid with extra sugar. i use to pour a glass and then add an extra 1/4 cup of sugar…sooo delicious. as for the text? no comment.