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I’ve been thinking about a concept that I wasn’t sure about, then tonight I was about to start writing a post about an aspect of my existence and women and blah blah blah but instead started watching this movie Sex and Death 101 staring good looking dude (no homo) Simon Baker and allegedly Winona Ryder.
Anyways the movie is about Baker’s character receiving a list of 101 names via e mail of every girl he’s ever slept with but even better every girl he ever will (imagine how awesome that would be to know the name of all future conquests). Of course this is a gift and a curse and hilarity ensues. At one point though hour hero meets and starts a relationship with an older woman that’s perfect for him after a-um-break up? His friends especially the married ones love her and thinks she’s good for him. He breaks up with her though only because she’s older and then states a line that I’ve been really debating over lately…. and I’m paraphrasing here
“Hope was alright, and all my friends liked her and were proud of me for dating her, but none of them were jealous of me for being with her. A man would rather have his friend’s jealousy…..”
That’s the thing with most alpha guys, sometimes we look at the women we’re dating through the eyes of our friends. I mean you ever meet a girl and date her for a while and think she’s great then when you finally feel it’s safe to introduce her to your friends after she leaves one of them says something like, “meh, she was alright but how can you deal with her big feet”. From that point on to till the rest of the relationship you can’t stop looking at her feet. By the end of the relationship you’re looking down at her feet and you’re imagining she’s wearing clown shoes.
It doesn’t have to be THAT bad, but the thing is if your friends meet a girl you like and she leaves and they don’t seem to really care or seem to be “whatever” about it, then it kind of kills your mood about your girl. Listen up ladies, ima do you a solid and give away the ultimate guy “scales” we judge you on. There’s how many drinks would it take for me to bang her scale, the would I bang her sober scale, would I bang only her for long term scale, would my friends bang her, and finally would I bang her for the rest of my life. If a woman doesn’t pass the “would my friends bang her” test then the chances of her getting to the would I bang her for the rest of my life stage is slim to none.
The perfect scenario would be for your date to go to the bathroom and all your boys lean in and say something to the affect… “how the fuck did you pull that” then you lean back all like, “come one now, you all know I’ve been done had game like that”. But inside your breath a sigh of relief and even you’re asking yourself the same questions. That’s when you know it’s official.
I just think it’s funny that most women are impressed and jealous of a friend’s man based on how he treats her and if they’d want to be treated the same way. Is he considerate, attentive to her needs, supportive. But us guys are so simple, when your boy brings a girl out for inspection, it’s simple pass or fail test of… “Yeah I’d hit that”
Simon Baker does have a decent sense of style, at least on The Mentalist. His character also seems to have a bigger set of balls that most people. I wouldn’t be surprised if he sported them in real life.
Where do you find these obscure movies? I know it’s a recession but DAYUM!
Was the movie any good? I couldn’t tell if you’d recommend it…
Yes , but male “friends” will often look for faults , physical or otherwise, in the woman you are dating because they are jealous and would in reality love to bang her.
They neg you by negging her.
This post is dead on. Your opinion is influenced by your peers (male and female). If their opinions about her range from indifference-charity case there’s no way to shake that feeling like you’re slumming. Time to end it.
It’s like in gym class when you were a kid. Do you pick up the worn, half-deflated basketball? Or do you race for the new one that has all the grip on it?
Tell me she’s good enough for You and I’m satisfied, I say.
We’re all slaves to social approval.
shiieeet im glad this is normal, cause I always hear guys saying shit like “it shouldnt matter what your friends think of her”
It surprises me that women don’t seem to get this. The first thing I do when meeting my partner’s male friends is make sure I’m completely on my game, physically and socially, and do my best to make sure that they either want me or respect me and build from there. I’m a reflection on my partner’s worth, as much as he is a reflection on mine.
I’m enjoying your blog. Wonderful writing style. Mildly suprised I hadn’t come across it before now.
love your articles, but just a side note, its hard to read your font, the lined background is a bit harsh on the eyes….