You didn’t pump fake
Even if he’s the one that called and asked for the first date, even if he picked the day place and time. When the check comes and you don’t even make the fake, slow motion hand creep towards your wallet. You come off looking like a spoiled. gold digging chick that uses guys for free drinks and a meal. If that’s the case so be it, but acting like you “expect'’ a guy to pay for everything makes you come off looking like a spoiled princess which equals headache. If he’s into you or thinks the date went well then obviously he’ll deny your pump fake and offer to pay. If he’s not then consider you paying probably assurance he wont call anyway so no need to sweat it. Then there might also be the chance that you’re one of those 21st century independent chicks that don’t mind paying for stuff, but what are the chances of that happening.
You verbalize your low market value before sex
This guy is already into you because he asked for your number called and asked you out on a date. You guys might have gone a few dates already. Why would you vocalize your insecurities by saying you wish you were skinnier, or you really don’t think you’re as pretty as other girls? Or even point out other girls who you think are more attractive than you when you’re out. I know sometimes girls do this looking for an ego stroke or compliment. You might even get one from the dude. But one of the thing every singe guy wonders when he’s with a girl is, “Can I do better” Why answer that question for him by telling him yes?
You don’t match his communication
If I guy calls you, you’re response should be a call back not a “hey what’s up text message”. If he text, don’t send him an e mail saying sorry you missed his text. If he e mails, don’t send him a message via carrier pigeon. Even though it might seem convenient at times, to most guys this comes off as playing some weird power game. The first sign of game then it’s game on and you might get moved to the bottom of the list for someone who matches response or responds in a timely fashion.
Using the I don’t usually do this line.
Even if it’s true, it sound fake so don’t even bother saying it. It will usually be followed with a similar cliche line from the guy, “yeah, I’ll call you”.
Trying to be too witty or funny,
I’m a funny mother fucker, and I actually like funny/ witty chicks. The thing is most guys aren’t funny at all or whatsoever. So when you start cracking jokes or being oh so witty, to most guys it comes off as a weird competition. If you’re funnier or wittier than the guy then it feels like you’re doing his job for him because guys are supposed to make the girls laugh. Listen it’s not your fault for being better than him at something, but you might want to wait till you guys know each other before you let your fledgling stand up career fly.
Bragging about your sex life.
You’re a girl, it’s not impressive you can bang any night you want, it’s not like you really have to put work into it. Telling all your crazy sex stories makes you come off as overcompensating and insecure. You’re sexy should be a mystery waiting to be solved not front page on the Washington post. Just saying.
Not having any fashion style or sense.
If a guy can tell you didn’t put any effort into getting ready to see him, then you’re kind of fucked and not in a good way. Act like you’ve done this before because at this point and time in your life, you should know what to do. Yes, I’m talking heals, end of discussion.
Complaining about regularly being pumped and dumped
See point number two.
Not keeping the conversation going.
kicking game is hard, help a playa out from time to time, have some topics to talk about.
Holding the pussy hostage
If it’s been a reasonable amount of dates and there’s obvious sexual chemistry between the both of you, it’s better to get the sex out of the way sooner than later. If it seems like you’re playing any kind of game and you’re holding the pussy as the ultimate prize, then with 9 out of 1o alpha males that’s all it will be come about. If sex becomes the big deal then we’ll do just what it takes to pump and dump. I’m not saying put out on the first night or anything I’m saying that making it into a big deal or even a game will insure that you get played. You’re thinking the longer you make him wait the more he’ll be into you, you keep right on thinking that and let me know how much it works out for you. Remember python game? Don’t hold that pussy hostage… liberate it and set it free.
That’s it for now, when I first started this post I only had three points, then the more I started writing the more points kept coming. Guys if there’s anything you want to throw in feel free.
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Using the I don’t usually do this line.
I’ve written about this. Using that line is pretty much a guarantee that she does that shit all the time, with your neighbor, the doorman, midgets, everyone.
If he e mails, don’t send him a message via carrier pigeon.
You’re killing it.
The “Mondays I have Yoga, Tuesdays I have girls night, Wednesdays I volunteer, Thursdays it’s kickball league…..” super busy line that we all know is passe and fake and not at all true.
i wonder how many girls already know what to do, and yet still do these other things instead. it must be a lot.
“You’re sexy should be a mystery waiting to be solved not front page on the Washington post.”
Yes.
“You didn’t pump fake”
I actually explained this concept to my GF last night. Her friend brought a guy she started seeing to dinner with us, and she got upset that he didn’t offer to pay for her. My GF agreed; I said “Well, where was HER offer?” It’s the 21st century, these expectations need to end.
I try not to be disgusted by the I don’t usually do this out of nowhere comment from most of the girls I bang the first night I meet them… or the morning after when I hear this. I think of the double standard and then I think of how many girls I bang without condoms. It is just different when they just randomly decide to throw that comment out there and then I’m like… uh, this girl is a nasty cumdumpster I just happened to meet and take home that night.
I love the blog and agree with most of the material. Didn’t mean to offend you that one time I happened to meet you and scoffed at the 6 you thought was hot. I thought the 0 and 1 scale comment was appropriate since your scale was obviously way off par from my usual appetite.
Vincent,
You know I be trying to kill it that is
Tallagash,
oh of course the Ms. too busy chick that complains about not having enough time to date then complains again about being single.
The Rookie,
TONS
Twoste,
I take it you agree,
Dave,
Some girls just don’t get it
J,
I like what you did there, started the comment with a compliment then moved un to the subliminal hate. I think you read Roosh’s post on 12 common types of hate. Even though I’m sure I’ve never met you, or might have in passing and we didn’t agree on ONE girl but now you know ALL the types of girls I go for and my personal scale, good luck with that.
Sorry, you’re right I am being a hater. I’ve never met you but I jock your style and love reading your blog on the regular. Keep up the great work and thanks for providing such great posts on the daily basis
Speaking of “act like you’ve done this before”, let’s mention guys who complain about using condoms. On the condom front, either guys are complainers or they aren’t; if a guy complains once he will do it every single time and eventually fall back on stealthy means to avoid using one. Complainers come across as immature and diseased since there are plenty of women who will cave to the wheedle. This is one thing I’d say a man does that makes a woman stop returning his calls.
Holding the pussy hostage = making me work too hard for it. It’s like I have to chase more and that I’m not ‘good enough’. It can blow a guy’s confidence if he gets emotional about it. Attraction killer as well.
Not keeping the conversation going = she must be nervous, shy, or just lacks social skills. When this happens, I get bored of her faster and start gaming other girls. This should NEVER happen on a date - I mean for God’s sake, the guy is into her so she should feel more relaxed and open-minded.
I usually don’t do this - “Yeah, we’ll see”. I’ll figure out whether she’s done several guys or is an innocent girl who hasn’t had her pussy demolished yet.
Overthought. You must be a man with high expectations because usually men are more simple. We don’t have a list of fifty things that could be wrong on a first date, as women do. For most men, the reasons they don’t call back for a second date are:
The girl is not attractive enough
The girl is too boring.
The girl is not warmth enough.
The girl reveal some MAJOR personality flaw.
With exception of that, a guy will call for a second date. We are not that damn picky.
I’m linking this to my blog next week. So sweet. So true.